how do i not, be scared of my husband?????  Stupid question, yes?  But it's really not to me....  Hubby & I got into  an argument earlier about his lack of time with me & the kids.... I was sitting in the floor of our kitchen by the buffett table & he was over by the cabinet.... I remarked about how he acts like he'd rather be asleep or playing x-box than to be with me & the kids... We'd already been arguing for almost an hour, and this must have made him angrier, cause the next thing i know, he slams his hand down onto the counter really hard (it sounded like he broke the counter, & come to find out later, he really hurt his arm)....  This scared me, so i stood up, and went to walk out of the kitchen but he wouldn't let me... He stood in my way, blocking me evertime i tried to move, he eventually had me pinned up against the stove..... I kept telling him he was scarring me, and i was crying but he refused to let me go... Intstead he kept saying, "you wanted to talk so lets talk"  I told him he was right, but that still didn't work.In my head i could just see him hitting me, even though he never did... It was like 6 months ago when we got into an argument and he bruised my arm because he lost his temper and didn't realize how hard he was grabbing me..... So i just stood there crying uncontrollabley...  After what seemed like forever (although i know it was only a few minutes) he wrapped his arms around me and apologized.... I know he's sorry, i do.... But i' m scared he's going to hit me...  He swears he never will, but if he doesn't even realize what he's doing in the moment (like he did when he hit the counter & when he grabbed my arm back in April) then how can he guarantee that he wont hit me?  He says he can swear that he wont because he grew up watching his dad hit his mom when he got angry & he swore as a child that he would never hit a woman.... I've been with him for almost 8 years and he's never hit me... But this makes twice that he's lost his temper and really scared me...  Last time i had a physical bruise on my arm to show, this time there's just fear in my mind.... In my heart i know he would NEVER intentionally hurt me, NEVER, but my mind is trying to protect me, and it's telling me not to be so sure.... How do i not fear the man i love... I got past my fear before, with prayer, and time.  And i'm sure i will again, i just don't want to fear him in the meantime.... I love him, & i know he loves me (i know i'm starting to sound like every abused woman), but he's never abused me....  I'm just afraid he will, and that's not normal....